If I remove a tag on Facebook, can my friends still see it
Being a guy, I once told a girl to correct her dressing style.
This incident happened in 2012, Bangalore.
,It was during my first year engineering, there was this girl in my class.
She was new to the city.
She got famous among many guys due to her choice of attire.
According to few people her dressing was u201coddu201d and for few others it looked u201csexyu201d as her body used to be exposed.
Now to be honest I donu2019t know whether she wore such a dress intentionally or not, but for me her dressing looked normal.
As I used to stay in the hostel, I had made friends with few North Indians.
A week after staying close to them, I realized that these guys used to make fun of her everyday by stalking her on Facebook and Instagram, prank calls and what not.
I still remember they used to tag her in the hostel with names such as u201cMaalu201d, u201cSunny leone of the collegeu201d and other disgusting words in Hindi.
(Not all of them are bad or dirty minded, Iu2019ve met many amazing ones!),But the teasing, stalking and prank calling continued.
I, personally felt uncomfortable by witnessing all this.
So one fine day, I decided to tell her.
But prior to that I had practiced my conversation in front of the mirror, preparing myself to face every possible consequence.
,On 28th of November 2012,( yes, I remember this date very well), I got the opportunity to tell her as she was alone in the class.
So the conversation somewhat went like thisu2026,**After 10u201320 minutes of our introduction, I spoke out**,Me: u201cHey, can I tell you something?u201d,She: u201cSure, go ahead.
u201d,Me: u201cBut before that, I would like to request you to keep all this between us.
You can judge me all you want, but just please.
oh and Iu2019m not proposing you.
Please donu2019t mistake me.
u201d,**she got offended on the u2018proposalu2019 part, but she chose not to express it**,Me: u201cAs youu2019re new to this city, I have been observing you for quite sometime.
People are making fun of you, tagging you with words just because of your dressing style.
Now personally I find your dressing style normal, but there are a few people in college and hostel who constantly stalk you with bad intentions(literally).
I find all this disturbing as I have witnessed this trash talk about you, I stay in the hostel so you get the picture.
I just wanted to tell you about this.
My apologies if I have hurt you or if I sound rude, but this is for your safety and betterment.
u201d,**She was stunned, shocked and broke down immediately**,She: **sobbing** u201cThank you so much! I had no idea about this, thanks a lot.
Iu2019ll definitely look into this and change it.
I never expected it to turn out like this.
u201d,Me: u201cItu2019s fine, Iu2019m glad I could help.
:)u201d,**After a few minutes of talking, she left**,At 11p.
m on the very same day, she thanked me on the Facebook messenger.
,After this incident, she was very careful with her dressing style.
I did not tell her about what type of clothes to wear, cause I had nothing to do with it.
,It felt good to be honest upon telling her about this.
Yes, it is sad that even today there are men who see women with a dirty mind.
I believe what I did was correct, and there are many guys like me who exist in this society.
,I hope Iu2019ve not hurt anyone with this post.
,:),NOTE:,Few people might think that I should have spoken to those guys.
Yes I tried, I tried after telling her.
But they didnu2019t care.
They had the u201cChalta haiu201d attitude.
Besides it was not a group of 4u20135 guys, it was a group of 30u201335 guys in the hostel itself who were trash talking about her.
There were many guys who stayed in the PGu2019s too.
Sure enough I would have been beaten up or bullied.
But hereu2019s something else that would have happened irrespective of whether I had spoken to them before telling her or after.
The girl would be dragged into this mess.
She had to stay in the same college for the next 4 years.
Keeping that in mind I chose to handle it in a low profile manner.
,Some of you feel that I advised her on what sort of clothes to wear.
Nope! I did not do that.
Itu2019s none of my business on what sort of clothes suits her or what type of clothes she is supposed to wear.
I told her to u201ccorrectu201d it and not u201cchangeu201d it.
,Few might feel that this is fake or not true.
I have no need to prove myself to you.
:),I removed my anonymity.